Most INFJs are empaths, a person highly attuned to the feelings and emotions of those around them. We use our extraverted feeling function to help us just literally feel what other people are feeling, whether we’ve felt that exact thing ourselves or not. Sometimes being an empath can feel like a burden, but when you dig into what it really means you realize that it’s actually a superpower. Most INFJs have a bit of a savior complex, where we want to help everyone that we possibly can. We dream about saving the world. Our empath superpower can help us save the world by creating positive change every single day. Let’s look at three ways we can create positive change.
1 Make people feel seen, heard and understood
One of the biggest problems that people have today is that we don’t feel seen or heard or understood. we live in a time where everyone is competing for attention on social media, when we have more information at our fingertips than any generation in history. You can literally see any of your friends or family anytime that you want to through social media or FaceTime phone calls. And yet most people don’t actually feel seen. Most people struggle to find their place in this world and to feel like they belong. Most people are so consumed with themselves that they’ve forgotten how to show other people love by giving them their attention.
As INFJs we are very good at figuring out how people feel and what people need the most. we show up with empathy and lend them a listening ear and the attention that they longed for. By showing people empathy not only are we helping them in the moment but we are also teaching them how to relate to other people and how to show up for other people.
2 Help everyone see the magic this world has to offer
It’s easy to get bogged down with day-to-day life. You have your routine of dragging yourself out of bed, grabbing coffee, and suffering through that job that you hate. Life doesn’t seem so grand or magical on any random Tuesday. Most people get wrapped up in the monotony of life and they forget to look for the magic. But there is so much Magic in simple things that we, as INFJs, are more prone to see and in our desire to help other people can point out to them. Even just reminding people that the fact that they are born is a complete miracle. the fact that they are alive, not only through a global pandemic but also through driving through traffic every day to work, through many plane rides in their lifetime, through all of the germs, bacteria and viruses that they have been exposed to over their lifetime. the fact that you’re alive today is Magic in itself.
INFJs are so sensitive to so many things that most people overlook. We’re moved by others’ emotions and by the things that we see in ways that most people are not. I love telling people about the feeling that I get when I’m on the beach staring out at the ocean or when I’m at a concert put on by my favorite band. I explain it in ways that most people don’t consider and I love to watch their eyes light up when they see it the way that I see it. This is pure magic when they feel the amazing emotional experience in something so simple.
3 Lead the way of the helpers
INFJs are natural helpers. we have an amazing ability to see problems very quickly and to work out the best and most efficient solution to those problems very quickly. It’s easy to see all of the negativity in the world and to get discouraged by it. The best way to combat this is to look for other helpers. There are other people out there just like us who’re trying to make the world a better place. They see the world the way that we do and they want to make it better the same way that we do.
As INFJs most of us prefer to be behind the scenes. We are capable leaders and sometimes it is our job to step up and Lead. Sometimes the help that we have to offer requires us to be in the spotlight or to be more visible than we would prefer. Sometimes the best thing that we can do is to lead the way for all of the other helpers in the world.